Sep 25

Training the Ego 4 – Working with Ego – Starting to be Mindful

4. Working with ego – Starting to be Mindful



Mindfulness is the process of anticipating and choosing the right thoughts for you. A great many thoughts are learnt from others unwittingly and some of these can cause us to think or behave in ways which afterwards we decide are undesirable.

Some of these thoughts are particularly strong and recurring, these are thoughts that often trigger unwanted feelings such as fear, anxiety, sadness and a lack of confidence and positive feelings towards self.

The process of being mindful is another case of needing to gently work with ego, it is difficult to do at first and needs practice and understanding that every day you should seek to be more and more mindful, rapid success is not common and you should know that this is something that you will take small baby steps towards the goal of continuous mindfulness.

It is also important to realise that some of these thoughts may not be possible to counteract with mindfulness alone as they are triggered from deeper subconscious processes that I will discuss later. However, being mindful of these thoughts will help you understand them and ego will help you by allowing you to “ring-fence” them – you will learn to anticipate them and automatically avoid bringing them to mind by distraction or simply moving into no-think. However it is also important to realise that these thoughts are seeking expression as part of the minds self-healing processes and if you suppress them they will grow stronger or will find some other route for expression so keep in mind the determination to fully explore them in future when it is more appropriate and this will actually help them be more controllable as you move forward on your healing journey.

Once you are able to quieten the mind you will automatically be more aware of what thoughts ego is presenting to you. An important part of learning to be mindful is that you should try to keep your mind clear of cluttered thoughts that are too complex or chaotic to be able to deal with.

A large part of mindfulness in the beginning is simply listening to self – becoming more and more aware of your own thought processes. You will find that increasingly thoughts can be anticipated, that prior to the thought actually presenting itself in your mind there is a pre-thought stage which is more about feeling the type of thought that is going to come.

Mindfulness is all about working this these pre-thoughts, at that point your thoughts are not strong and can be changed or avoided but in the early stages of mindfulness it seems almost impossible to do that, the time between the pre-thought and the thought is so short.

However you will find that as you monitor these pre-thoughts and their subsequent thoughts you will start to see patterns in the anticipatory feelings that they inspire and it is these patterns that you will come to use in order to manipulate your own thought flow. You will be able to distinguish just by the initial feeling of the thought what type of thought it is going to be.

So this is the first stage of mindfulness, simply taking care as you study your own thoughts and analysing what you detect, learning about how you think and seeing that there is a structure to the way that your thoughts come to you.

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Aug 08

The Unique Truth of Self

The Unique Truth of Self

Within each of us, is a unique view of the divine; an enhanced understanding of the divinity of the universe and of self, this is what I call the Truth of Self. When a person is able to step outside of the social programming and distractions of society and take a thorough look at self, then the great mystery of self starts to become apparent.

By working on self, this mystery reveals itself, and it provides the individual with a far greater understanding of life, the universe and of self than can be obtained simply by dwelling in the external reality.

It could be said that the journey to the Truth of Self is the journey that everyone needs to take, as it is the journey to enlightenment, in whatever form it takes for that individual concerned. It is often a mystery path, one whose real truth is not revealed in one go but in a series of self revelations as one pays increasing attention to the interior world of the mind.

A person’s journey to the Truth of Self typically begins with mindfulness. It may be that they have noticed anomalies regarding their perception of the world or themselves; experiences that do not agree with the common accepted understanding of things and this has caused them to be far more careful with the attention they give things. Or it may be that they have started being mindful as a path to self improvement but either way it is usually through mindfulness that deeper understandings of self and revelations regarding the wider universe can be obtained.

Through travelling within through self introspection and mindful practices a person will arrive at truth; a genuine understanding of self. It is this truth that is of paramount importance both to the individual and to all since this is the journey to enlightenment and it is very important that as many people as possible attain this self enlightenment. In my view, no other path is of more importance.

It is also important to realise that the Journey to the Truth of Self is also the journey to a much deeper sense of individuality since finding ones truth allows a person to see the true depth of the uniqueness that we are all blessed with. Selfists have a huge variety of beliefs and experiences, the joy of Selfism is when your uniqueness allows you to validate the uniqueness of others instead of expressing the collective ego of society that seeks a conformity of beliefs and understandings.

The Truth of Self is not objective, it is not something that can be proven externally in detail through corroboration with others. It is possible to find others with similar understandings, but no two understandings will ever match up fully when it comes to detail. This is because of three factors; translations, reflections and uniqueness.


If we all get to see the same universe, how can our individual view of it be thought of as being unique? The issue here is the sheer size of the universe and our poor ability to comprehend it.

Held deep within each of us is our own understanding and connection to the divine universe, we get to see it from our own set of perspectives, it would be extremely rare for any two people to have a 100% match in understanding since there are a myriad of perspectives available and the tendency is for us each to have our own piece of the jigsaw.

This of course makes life a lot less boring, since each of us has what can be considered a unique truth to share, to add to the collective understanding of the divine. Seeking the Truth of Self is not a path for followers, rather each must become their own guru.
This does not mean one cannot learn from friends, but it does mean that our own view has to come from self, we can’t buy it from a bookstore.


Our interaction with both the internal world and that of the external are so often reflections of personal characteristics, we attract things into our world based on our own wants, needs and desires, be they knowingly or unwittingly. In this way we find ourselves in a world where we manipulate our environment and so personalise how we manifest the universe around us.

This of course adds a further layer of personalisation onto an individual’s unique view and it is one of the ways that we come to understand self; through understanding the internal drivers that connect to these reflections and often in doing that finding the healing that relieves that pressure.


It is easily possible for two people to share exactly the same source view and yet disagree on it’s content and meaning. This is because of the way each of us translates the world around us based on our education, experience and preferences. The same word can have completely different meanings between different people.

Knowledge of this should make the individual Selfist less likely to become involved with arguments regarding differences in understanding and instead should lead to a dialogue it understand the deeper perspectives that brought that understanding into clarity.

Mutable Truth of Self

Understanding the Truth of Self is a journey, a journey through which our understanding of self evolves as deeper understandings are revealed, shedding new light on subjects that may have been seen from only a single perspective. Thus a person’s Truth of Self is a working model, or even a set of models – different view-points that can mean some topics have multiple, sometimes conflicting truths, and it is important to be clear exactly from which perspective one is looking.

What this means is that a Selfist, a person seeking their truth of self, understands that each is unique and they will be very interested in seeing the uniqueness of others as well as themselves. Sharing such knowledge helps moves them on in their own journey and enhances their own understandings with those of differing viewpoints. This leads to a true acceptance of others points of view.

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Jul 30

Following your Path

 Following your Path


Following your Path

There is often much discussion and disagreement about the path a person takes, so what is this “Path”, how do you get on it and can you take a wrong turn?

In spiritual terms, the path is the energetic flow towards the future, it is the current “now” and it is also the lessons that have been learnt. Technically everyone is on a path, each path is unique and each path can be described as the string of lessons a person needs to learn in order to reach their ultimate goal of full enlightenment.

There is often a lot of debate about if someone can be on the wrong path, in my view there is only one path for each of us, we do not know for sure where it will lead exactly, and when someone is said to be on the wrong path, what is really meant is that they are failing to learn the lessons that their path is bringing to them, and this means as far as their spiritual growth is concerned they are not moving forward.

So what are these lessons?

Each individual that is incarnated here on earth comes to this plane of existence with karma – lessons that where not learnt in previous lives that will prevent that individual from moving forward if they are not learnt. Each individual is unique and their karma will be unique to them. Typically, whilst we choose to incarnate here on earth as the best place to learn those lessons, the incarnation process itself will wipe our memories of this karma in order that we can face those lessons afresh. However there are often clues for those that are aware and are mindful.

Another way of looking at it is that each of us is a unique expression of the divine and we are tasked with expressing our own unique divine path, it is up to us to find our way and lessons are presented to us by the universe in order to be guideposts towards that expression. To fully express this is our challenge and it involves courage, foresight, strength of character and self-confidence. Ultimately the individual that completes this challenge will have the option of “stepping off” the cycle of reincarnation and this option is perhaps the beginning of an individual’s free-will.

Getting on Track

So, as you walk through life the universe will present you with challenges, if you fail to correctly negotiate a challenge then it will return in one form or another. The trick is often to realise when this is happening and to make changes to your response in order to be successful and move on to the next challenge. The purpose for these challenges is ultimately for you to come to a full understanding of self – to view ones true nature – how you respond to the challenges is in itself part of that journey of self-understanding. Therefore you should be aware that there is a positive side to every adversity that you will face and that adversity is itself part of your own spiritual growth.

Of course there are many who do not believe in past lives however this does not really matter, what matters is the here and the now: You are a spiritual being, learning to be your perfect divine expression and the path that you find yourself on is the perfect path for you.

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Jul 16

God Is All

God Is All


Ordinarily when we observe something, thoughts, beliefs and human awareness only see a physical object having a shape, weight and form which are all material and finite in nature. Then the human mind interprets that in front of it and called it so, so and so. The human belief will say: I see a book, a table, a chair or I see space, persons, light, sun, etc. The human mind will say in words: ‘a book is here’, ‘a table is here’, ‘a chair is here’ or he/she may choose to describe and says: ‘the sun is hot’, ‘the water is cold’ or ‘this space is vast’.

You will notice ‘is’ is common to all the above sentences and statements. That ‘is’ is not what belief thinks it is (you notice the is again), because the one Universal Truth is: Only God Is, only Spirit Is. The Is is God alone because only God Is.


”I am the Lord and beside Me (God, Spirit), there is none else……” Isaiah 45:5

In the Muslims Holy Book, the one main statement of Truth is “There is nothing but God” (Allah, I, Consciousness, Truth, Spirit, Infinity).

If you just think deeply about those two statements of truth from seemingly different source, you will realise that both are the whole truth of God. The statements mean truly; the ONLY presence is God. Which means we have ben misidentifying what we are, see, observe and witnessing all these while, as Paul said in the Bible ‘we see but we see darkly’. We put on sunglasses and we entered a room complaining it is dark inside.

What we called our experiences, world, and universe is nothing but the very presence of God, Spirit, Consciousness, Oneness, Infinity, and Omnipresence.


Only God Is. Only the one Infinite Omnipresence Being exist. You may call it Consciousness, Spirit, Awareness, Infinity. Or you may refer to It as God, Allah, I or Oneness. The truth is that no one can know the One Being Oneness because Itself is One and there is none else beside the One. Only Oneness exist as Itself, aware of Itself alone and being the fullness of Itself as the entire Universe and Infinity.


Because only God Is, only God can. Only God can know and aware of Itself. Only God can be the name and identity of Itself. Only God Itself is the presence, the awareness and understanding.

‘His Understanding is Infinite’ Psalm 147:5

Apart from His wisdom and Knowing, there is nothing else. God is Omniscient, Omnipresent and Omnipotent.


It is time we rise to the truth of our self and this place we called earth. What our mind, activities, world and universe is isn’t something different and apart as it all seems when we look at it in beliefs and state of unawareness. We need to wake up from the beliefs in matter as being what we are observing and dealing with to the truth that it is actually and in reality God Itself that is all of our entire universe.


God Is, and nothing else is in the whole of infinity. God is Infinite being the Infinitude. Right here and now, despite appearances which seems convincing when believed, our earth is not physical, matter, structural or finite. No finiteness, physicality, objectivity or materiality exist. Only God exist.

And God Itself must be the awareness of Itself for all the good that is God to be witnessed in our experience.


Next time when you are witnessing or observing something, pause right before the five physical senses is consumed in the physicality or materiality of it. Turn briefly within, be aware of the silence or the aliveness of you and says silently ‘only God Is, only God can.

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May 30

Visualisation excersize, 29/5/17 Stairway to heaven,

Visualizing  a stairway. it is made of water, flowing upwards. Four steps.
Ground level,
I could see, a sea of souls, the emotions were overwhelming, engulfing me, with their pain, sorrow, their confusion, and feeling lost and alone, instantly I felt them, I felt immense compassion, and love, I felt great sorrow and the need to help them. They looked like a huge crowd, numbering, many, pale and blue ghosts, —
I moved through the sea of souls, towards the stairway, crying, and trying to center and regain, my composure and emotions, my tears were like acid, hot and stinging, giving me sore eyes. —
Then I saw the stairway, and climbed onto the first step, which splashed and tickled cool water over my feet, washing them, as the water flowed up the stairway, to heaven. —
First level,… I was meant to see my ancestors, and loved ones, who’d passed. but instead, saw, felt a void of emptyness, misty glowing, swirling, light, but also of peace. I am told they have all moved on, so I ventured up the next step. —
Second level,— I was meant to see my guides, as usual they were being stubborn, and said I did’nt need to see them as I already knew them and have seen them before, lol, :p smiles,
Third level,…. I was meant to see my guardian angel, and there he was, tho glowing hazily, in a bright mist, of light, I could make out the angel shape with huge wings, and feel the love, of Archangel Gabriel.
Fourth level, the top of the watery stairway, I could see clouds all around, but like a tunnel, going up through the center, a funnel of blue light going up through the clouds, to the sun, shining brightly, I felt wonder and calm, joy sunning myself on the top step, then I asked, “what is my life purpose, ” I felt the answer, vibrationally/telepathically.
“To help, To teach, To heal, To give peace, and love “
then as I descended down the stairway, at each level, I gave thanks, for the help. guidance, love protection, teaching and healing, til when I reached ground level again, noticing, I did’nt feel that anguished, emotions, as before. and the sea of emotions had calmed.

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Apr 14

Divine Feminine & Masculine Reunited Oracle Deck

Hello beautiful souls, just thought I’d share a beautiful image a friend shared from an oracle deck she’s creating. Not sure if the image comes through clearly, but I’d love to hear your thoughts on whether this is something that appeals to you

Divine Feminine & Masculine Reunited Oracle Deck



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Apr 14

Hello Everyone

Hi everyone,

My name is Adam and I’m excited to connect with a community that shares an interest in their spirituality. Feel free to say hi at any time.


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Jan 17

Training the Ego 5 – Living in the Now

Training the Ego – 5. Living in the Now


An awful lot of people concern themselves far too much with the future or the past. Dwelling on these things often leads to anxiety or self-blame as one looks at past “mistakes” or future challenges in a negative light. Such thoughts are almost always undesirable and my advice is to avoid them whenever possible.

Yes, we should learn the lessons of the past, but we should remember that the past does not define or determine how we might respond to the same situations today. A person living in the “Now” is informed by past experience, but doesn’t think “I always do that”. They will rather think “This is a fresh situation I am facing, I choose to do what is best for me, I dare to be different, I am a different person now, I have learned and I move on”.

Similarly, it is inadvisable to think too much about the future. Of course we should have future plans and hopes but spending too much time dwelling on the future, positively or negatively, means that we are actually building within ourselves a prediction of how we will behave in the future. If we constantly worry about possible negative outcomes we create within ourselves a propensity to move towards that outcome.

Similarly if we constantly think of positive future possibilities then we are limiting the possibilities of our future by over-defining our expectations. We are also creating opportunity for disappointment when our idealised view of the positive future does not materialise. We have to be very careful and focus on the “Now”, and take time to savour and enjoy simply being in this present moment.

While I advise avoiding thinking too much about the future, there is one aspect of future projection that is positive and should be encouraged. This is the positive self-affirmation.

Many people who train their ego realise that they have unwittingly programmed it to be negative and critical about the self. That is undesirable since it makes the individual unhappy and makes it harder to have a positive outlook on the future.

Positive self-affirmations are a way of correcting this negative behaviour by programming into the ego your future truth of self. We are all wonderful beings, without exception. We struggle to see this because of the weight of the negative programming that we have absorbed and therefore what is needed is for us to remove our negative self-image using mindfulness and to reinforce our positive self-image using affirmations.

Some good self-affirmations are as follow:

Everything I touch is a success.
I am courageous and I stand up for myself.
I radiate beauty, charm, and grace.
My life is just beginning.
My nature is Divine; I am a spiritual being.
I am a powerhouse; I am indestructible.
I am always guided and protected.
I wake up today with strength in my heart and clarity in my mind.
I am at peace with all that has happened, is happening, and will happen.
My thoughts are filled with positivity and my life is plentiful with prosperity.
I have been given endless talents which I begin to utilize today.

Other affirmations can be found online. Most people find that if they choose to regularly give themselves positive affirmations they feel an awful lot better about themselves after a few weeks.

Positive self-affirmations can be used as an internal chant that can defeat or distract persistent negative thoughts.

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Nov 29

Dealing with Emotional Attachments

Dealing with Emotional Attachments

When we deny emotions and feelings from self, we find ourselves requiring those emotions and feelings from others, sometimes we demand the inverse, and so a person that denies themselves of love from self, will either demand it from others, or they will demand hate or dislike from others.

This is a simple truth that most people cannot see until they have played out this obsessions many times until they sicken themselves with the reality of the life they have created for themselves – the obsessive need to feel love or its mirror, the obsessive demand for hate.This is how the majority of negative and toxic relationships are created, the coming together of two opposites, each born out of a suppression of self, a need for emotional energy, either the need to give, or the need to take.

Ego creates these problems, and it is only through working with ego can these problems be overcome, only through going back to the cause of the need and healing it, can that need be satiated; Only through self can a person come to be happy.There are many causes of denial of self, and often the cause itself is a place of fear, and also can be difficult to track down, since those denials of self came about long ago and were often the result of traumatic pain, and so the healing of such pains is not something to be taken lightly, and it is also not something that comes easily.Thus for many people they have to go through one toxic relationship after another in order to make them realise that the answer is not in the finding of the right partner, but it is with the journey within; to find the root of the need that is causing them so much pain, a pain that ego tries very hard to avoid, and that they themselves will gladly seek a short term distraction rather than confront the deep pain that caused the denial of self in the first place.

The equation as to how such obsessions come about is a simple one; a painful event, often in childhood and linked to those close to the individual causes that person to seek to not feel that pain again by denying that aspect of self. Typically unknowingly, they will ask ego to repress that emotional expression – they will “toughen up”. However, this creates a yearning within, a sense of something that is missing, it starts gently at first, but over time grows stronger. It could be seen in terms of emotional energy – we deny a certain polarity of emotional energy from ourselves and this means that we become drained of that energy, and this creates a draw to external sources of that energy – other people who seem to have lots of it.

As the individual gets older, they find themselves needing more and more of this energy from others, and they also find that those bursts of emotional support that they get from others sustain them for shorter periods of time.
This is why obsessional and toxic relationships have been paralleled with drug addiction: they are in themselves addictive, and the victim of this behaviour finds themselves less and less able to exist without significant amounts of emotional support from others.

As I said earlier, it can also work in the opposite way, a person denying themselves of one polarity of emotional energy can also find themselves denying themselves of this same bandwidth from others. This is often because that particular set of feelings reminds them too much of the trauma that their denial is trying to avoid. However this is not a solution either, since the individual that is denied of any of the full spectrum of emotional feelings will find themselves unhappy, and they will have exaggerated needs in other areas.

This is the source of what many people call attachments – The need to have emotional fulfilment through others, usually obsessive and often moving from one toxic relationship to another.

So, once you find yourself in such a position of being attached to toxic relationships and in that seesaw of swinging from the happiness of finding fulfilment through another to the inevitable sadness and pain when the initial “buzz” of that relationship wears off, how can you fix that problem for once and for all?

The answer lies in self introspection, but it is not an easy path and the roots of the issues can be very deep, in some cases they can lie in the realms of inherited karma, however the route to understanding and healing these issues tends to follow the same path.

The first thing to realise is that these emotional energies have specific frequencies that our desire for fulfilment has tuned into and is seeking them from the outside world. The individual concerned is therefore already an expert in sensing those emotional energies and this skill can be of great use when trying to track down the source of those emotions that lie within ourselves.

The second thing to realise is that the suppression of those feelings comes from a block, and often this block is a psychological thought pattern that needs to be resolved in order for those feelings to be able to flow again. These thought patterns can be conscious, or they can be subconscious – the individual may know exactly why they are blocking those emotions or they may have no knowledge of them at all.

When the individual is aware of those blocks, then the task to a certain extent is easier, since they know why they have chosen not to allow themselves to have those feelings. Such people often say that it is because they never wish to be hurt in that way again. However, such people may need to ask themselves if that memory is actually the cause of their issues, or if there is something deeper that could be the real cause of their pain – an earlier block that has them in a cycle of painful encounters, so in effect they are denying secondary feelings as a side-effect of yet earlier pains that they may no longer be aware of.

When the cause is not remembered then some techniques are required to try to track down the cause of the issue.

Some certainties are needed to be understood. Firstly, if you find yourself needing emotions from others then it is because you are denying them from yourself: they are there, just hidden and suppressed. Secondly, you have the skills to find those denials or blockages: You are like a bloodhound when it comes to these feelings, you are very good at finding them in others, but now the task is to turn those senses on yourself and realise that the only true source is self.

There are a number of techniques that can be used to try to find the root blockage and it should be remembered that we are all individuals and differing techniques will work for different people. Also, it is likely that this task will be like peeling an onion – you may have to peel the onion several times until you get to the core of the problem.

One method is to take yourself on a meditative healing journey; go into a meditative state and enter into an intuitive self-dialogue where you ask yourself searching questions as to the root of your pain. Remember that you are working with feelings and try to sense the feelings that you are seeking, remember the feelings that you get from others that you are denying from yourself and try to find the trail of causalities that got you to this point then go back in time to their source.

You will need to be brave whilst doing this, often the source memories are painful and we will naturally try to avoid them, you may feel heightened anxiety and stress as you work back to the root of the problem and it is also worth remembering that there will probably be several events over time that you will need to negotiation, until you get back to the true source.

Once you get to the source then you need to look at the issue with a dispassionate eye, and try to carry with you the understanding that whatever happened, it was not your fault and the pain that you received was inflicted upon you by others, it was their doing, and you were simply the victim. It was them that sent you on this trail of toxicity and the only way to prevent it from continuing is for you to accept that those emotions that you chose to block are your true self, and they should not be blocked from being expressed.

Remember that the journey back into self is a huge part of the healing process in itself and the more you look within in this way, the more you will have healed yourself, even if the cause of the problem has no rational explanation – sometimes the slightest upset in childhood can have the greatest impact in later years.

If this method of healing evades you and does not seem to help there are other methods of healing, you can ask a councillor to guide you through this process, you could also seek help from a hypnotist who will help unlock those forgotten pains from the past.

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Nov 10

My Truth is not your Truth; Let’s celebrate that!


There are many truths, in my view there is a different truth in each of us, and that fascinates me.

As I see it, if we are lucky, we get to see our truth, a view of the divine, OUR view of the divine, and the divine is so big and so vast that each view is different – different angles, different aspects etc. Therefore to me, when I am lucky enough to be told about another’s truth it adds to my understanding and appreciation of the All that is. Even when that truth conflicts with aspects of my own there is learning to be had, it is always good to question, and opposing views cause questions to be asked.

If you hear another’s truth and that makes you upset, and you find yourself compelled to “correct” their view, step back and ask yourself why you need another to affirm your truth by agreeing with it? There can be a few reasons for this, it maybe that you have not completed training your ego and you are suffering from the untrained ego’s need to have everyone agree with it, in order for it’s sense of self to feel vindicated. It could also be that you do not know your truth very well, if at all, for anyone that really knows their truth realises just how unique this view is.

So let’s come together and celebrate our uniqueness! Let us all share our truth’s, certain in the knowledge that no two truths are the same, and therefore let us take the logical step of acceptance of our differences, in fact lets move beyond acceptance acceptance and into full celebration of the fact that my uniqueness is the ultimate affirmation of yours. Let us all move beyond judgement of another’s truth and into that wonderful place where we can accept any truth and the differences with ours do not cause us to hold pain and disdain. Try to remember if you get these things, then it is your problem, not the theirs.

But what about ego truths? What about those whose truth is to follow another?

Yes, in my view there are two kinds of truth; there is the borrowed truth and there is the authentic truth. A person who is not connected with self, who has not looked deep within themselves to truly know self has a tendency to borrow truth’s from others, and once they have done that they tend to look for others to do the same.

This is one of the biggest problems with our society – people will fight in order to have their adopted truth accepted and adopted by others. Society has a very long history of this and it is the reason why people say religion is bad and in many ways it is true – A religion that try’s to force people to abandon their own unique truth in order to adopt a single common view of the nature of the divine is fundamentally racist and some would say evil, so why do we do that?

It all comes down to the way ego works when  it is left untrained and when we are disconnected from our truth of self.

A person that suffers hardship during childhood is left disconnected from self – unaware of their truth. For the majority this hardship takes the form of the education process, which causes them to reject their truth of self and to take a view that looks for external truths to adopt. Society encourages this way of operating.

Having become disconnected from their truth, the individual starts to become unwittingly reliant on ego to provide them with happiness.

The untrained ego works on judgement, it compares things, creates tick lists for reasons to be happy and an awful lot of those tick lists revolve around affirmation from others – ego needs to know that everyone agrees with us, and when they do, ego will tell us to be happy. In this way, people become increasingly determined to have others agree with them, and so they become evangelists for their adopted truth – desperate for others to believe the same thing in order for them to be happy, if they come across others that do not believe then it makes them unhappy and since seeking happiness seems to be a prime directive of humanity then they will ultimately fight to have others agree with them, they will also kill for it.

So what is the answer? How can we break this system that causes us to hate others for their differences? I humbly suggest the most important thing is that we need to teach everyone how to train their ego to seek their personal truth. For me this is the single most important thing that we can do. When a person finally reveals their own genuine truth then the logic falls into place that this unique truth means that everyone else also has a unique truth to be revealed, and that this myriad of unique truths means this world is far more interesting than the one the followers of adopted truths would have us create.

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Nov 07

Group Meditation for the Awakening of Humanity to it’s True Authentic Self

Group Meditation for the Awakening of Humanity to True Authentic Self

While there are many positive ambitions we can have regarding where we put our energies, one this seems clear: Many of the changes that we strive for will not happen without significant numbers of people waking up!

We would like to invite you to Awakening to the Truth of Self’s very first Group Meditation, this is in support of the cause of awakening and it is a channeling of positive energy towards that aim of the awakening of humanity to its collective Truth of Self.

The mediation will occur on the day of the full moon at 21:00 GMT on the 14th November and will last for 15 minutes.

During this meditation we ask that you visualize that your energy will travel to others and in giving them the gift of your energy provides them with the ideas that allow them to see beyond their conditioning and so to awakening.

Imagine large numbers of people awakening across the globe and try to visualize your own activities towards engendering a climate of global awakening whatever they may be, visualize that these efforts are getting more effective and that through our presence, energies and example we are collectively creating an environment of collective awakening to each individuals Truth of Self.

You may wish to focus on people you are already connected to, or more generic populations.

Of course these are just suggestions, you may use this time as you wish for the collective benefit of all. You may also meditate towards this end any time as all energy moved in this direction will reap great benefits.

To accompany your meditation, You might like some music:

Please join us if you can! Thanks for your time, Barra and the team at Awakening to the Truth of Self

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Nov 05

The Role of Belief Systems

The role of belief systems


Your world revolves around belief systems, belief systems are a critical and key part of life, they can allow a person to envisage new beliefs and understandings, but they can also constrain, and lead to avoidance of truth and also the misinterpretation of it. To any person seeking to find their truth of self it is important to realise that all is belief and that all beliefs can change and should change when new experiences and insights are allowed to trigger internal transformation.

There are different types of beliefs; “Hard” beliefs are firmly held, soft beliefs are less solid. However, every belief has an impact on how we interpret the world, and it is important to realise that the more firmly you hold your beliefs the less able you are to see your own truth of self. This is because firmly held beliefs affect what we allow ourselves to understand, they constrain our view of the world into tightly defined boxes that may also preclude or exclude other boxes that could be seen.

If you are going to genuinely discover your truth of self then you need to learn to be more flexible about your belief systems. Realise the simple truth that to hold to a belief firmly is merely a decision, and one can choose to weaken the impact of such beliefs by choosing to relax their hold. Doing so will allow you to explore other beliefs and understandings more fully. Especially those that come from within.

Slackening our grip on beliefs is a key part to exploring our own truth of self, it is often used in conjunction with intuition and other forms of inner guidance to seek new inspiration about self.

You see, exploring your truth of self, using meditation, intuition and other forms of inner guidance means that you will come across such things that may conflict with existing beliefs in what is possible. For example, you may find that you have memories that might not be yours and yet seem to embody a key aspect of your life story. Such things are often emerging aspects of our truth and these need to be pondered without worrying about any conflicts with existing beliefs.

The task is not to simply accept these emerging insights as absolute truth, but to consider them part of an emergent understanding, something that needs time and effort in order to explore. Information such as this, which comes from within and yet is outside of our realm of experience so far often become the foundation of a person’s self-truth. Seemingly a new found and extraordinary aspect of our imagination, the more these are investigated, the greater our knowledge of self becomes. Sometimes these are false beliefs that actually lead ultimately to higher points of wisdom, a person’s path can have many twists.

So part of the path of a seeker of the truth of self is to develop a healthy sceptical acceptance of the information you receive. And to be able to hold these “truths” alongside other more mundane truths whilst their impact on our lives is better understood.

When we choose to explore self, a common method is through intuitive meditative journeys. Often we are inspired to take such a journey because of dreams we have had that seemed to give clues as to higher wisdom about self. In a dream it is often difficult to control events so as to maximise our understanding and exploration of them. Information received via dreams can be augmented by choosing to consider their content during meditation.

So it is important for a seeker of truth of self to develop an open minded approach to the information that one receives during dreams, meditations, intuitions etc. Such information needs to be taken seriously and in order to do that a person needs to have the self confidence to be able to weaken their dependence on existing belief systems and be able to adopt lesser beliefs, often temporarily whilst the truth of self is explored using this new information.

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Nov 02

Working with Intuition

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Once you have cleared your mind of its clutter, there is room to start exploring self, and the way to explore self is through intuition.

Intuition can be very difficult to tune into at first, since it is often the quietest of voices, particularly it seems in men. Women are often more in-tune with their intuition, hence the term “feminine intuition” however it is important to realise that a lot of what many people call intuition is actually just another ego process, so it is important not to confuse this “Ego Intuition” with real intuition, and it is also important to realise the role that ego plays in interpreting our intuitive thoughts, and the manipulation that ego can often apply to them.

Another important role of ego is in interpretation of information. Each individual for example gains differing meanings to words due to the bank of knowledge that they have picked up along the way relating to those words. The term ego is a classic for this and it means a great many different things to different people. Mostly they think of it as a negative aspect of certain “egotistical” people, however ego is simply a self-learning mechanism of the mind that allows us to have automated high level responses to given situations. This allows us to have freedom of mind-space so that we can perform complex tasks at the same time as thinking about other things, so it is actually a very beneficial mechanism.

Part of this self-learning task is about interpreting the environment, including ideas and thoughts and this can often be as much of a hindrance as a help, since ego can be closed minded and tend to be restrictive of ideas – applying fixed notions when it comes to interpreting the inputs that it perceives. What this means is that ego can decide to ignore some inputs and other inputs it can manipulate.

Ego will ignore inputs it does not understand and also inputs it has decided are not relevant or are to be ignored. Intuitive thoughts can fall into either of these categories and it is therefore worth spending some time working on ego in order to open it up to presenting these thoughts to you. You can start this process by repeating certain affirmations to yourself: “I will see all I can see”, “I will be open to all inputs”, “I will listen for the quietest of thoughts, no matter how odd or confusing they may be”.

Affirmations should be repeated at least three times, they are a way of programming ego, you make a positive statement and reinforce it by repetition. Try to think of ways that you have been closed minded in the past and specifically tell yourself that you will do the opposite – try to make affirmations “Will do” statements, not “Will not do”.

Ego can also manipulate information that it receives, this is difficult to avoid a lot of the time, since in order to make sense of things ego seeks to compare it to information that it already knows, and intuitive information may not have a good comparison, so when you are dealing with ego you need to remember that things may not always be as they appear – if you are lucky, ego is giving you it’s best guess as to what that information means, if you are less lucky then ego is actually changing the information because at some point in your past you did not like it and unknowingly asked ego to change it for you, to save you future hurt or discomfort.

The only way to proceed is to continue exploring your intuitive thoughts, over time their meaning and strength will improve but you should always question if the meaning you have deduced is the true and full meaning or if there is manipulation due to that information being difficult for ego to recognise and therefore a more shallow guess than might at first appear. So it is yet another case where practice is important.

So how do you practice listening to your intuition?

In order to have any chance to hear your intuition you need to have a quiet mind. Therefore practicing mindfulness wherever possible is key – also, whenever you are faced with a question, make sure you give yourself a moment to listen for any intuitive thoughts that might arise. If none are forthcoming that is fine, but get into the habit of giving that extra moment or two of listening for intuition.

I say listen for intuition but of course intuition is not always a conscious thought, often it is a feeling but nonetheless the same principle applies in that intuition needs to be given time to surface, be it a thought, a lack of thought, a feeling or a lack of feeling.

Once you realise that there is an intuitive message to listen for, you can work on it by putting yourself in a position to need to listen for it, this can be a simple task, you can go for a walk and allow intuition to tell you where to go. You can go shopping and see if intuition has guidance on where to shop and what to buy. These sound like simple things and they are, and yet they are also difficult because it means you will have to break with routine, so try going places you have not been to before since there you will have no routine to break.

Also, guessing games can also be good at finding your intuition, it does not matter if you get it wrong, what matters is that you are exercising that link with self, every time you listen for and gain intuitive guidance you will strengthen that link and it will be that little bit easier to hear that guidance in future and also you are establishing the habit of listening to self, this is a habit that needs to be retained.

Perhaps one of the best ways of learning to work with intuition is go on an intuitive meditative journey: Allow yourself to write a story under meditation by listening to your intuition and verbalising what information comes to mind.

Take yourself to a quiet place where you will not be disturbed away from any distractions. The whole concept with a meditation is simply to allow you to focus more clearly on the self-introspection journey.

In your quiet space, make yourself comfortable. The journey may last quite a bit of time so sit or lie in a comfortable position so that you will not feel physical discomfort on your journey. Note it is not important to adopt any special meditation position. I usually lie down for my meditations, the only danger here is that of falling asleep while meditating, but so long as you are not too tired to begin with you should be ok. Also note that it takes practice to get to the right relaxed state during meditation, so you may need to do this a few times in order to gain success.

Now that you are comfortable, allow yourself to relax. The aim with meditation is to try to get as relaxed as possible without falling asleep, and to empty your mind of any other thoughts, which at this point are only distractions.

Allow yourself to relax quietly for 5 to 10 minutes until you intuitively know it is the right time to begin your journey and then begin by imagining the start of your story. Listen to your intuition and try to verbalise in your mind the response and in this way establish a dialogue of self-exploration within your mind that will lead step by step to the creation of a story.

The path that this journey will take is up to you. Have no preconceptions as to how it will turn out, have a completely open mind and follow the journey that intuition sets out for you. Remember that these journeys take practice, but the more you do them the easier such journeys will be.

A journey can be short or long, normally inexperienced people journey for shorter periods. Try to take note of every thought that you have, sometimes even apparently distracting thoughts are important. The more you listen to intuition, the more successful you will be in your journeys.

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Oct 31

Shamanism: Soul Splits and Soul Retrieval

Shamanism; Soul Splits and Soul Retrieval

In Shamanic terms, when a trauma causes the individual to reject an aspect of self, this is termed the splitting of the soul. The concept is that an individual’s soul is the totality of self and when we reject an aspect of that totality we stop communicating with that aspect of self, causing the soul to become fragmented. Serious trauma can cause many fractures, but even a slight rejection by others can often cause us to unwittingly reject self and so cause a soul split.

This splitting of the soul typically happens many times during a typical person’s life, especially as children, who have a tendency to take criticism very seriously especially from adults. This means that many individuals enter adulthood with numerous soul splits and these will tend to form the basis of that adults emerging psychological condition. I say emerging because soul splits are the basis of many issues the individual may have, and as that individual gets older then often the impact of the soul split becomes more and more pronounced. This is often seen as a worsening psychological state though in reality it is due to increased internal pressure to heal the split. The split makes itself apparent in order to instigate healing by the individual concerned, yet we often misinterpret this and adopt strategies to hide these psychological traits in order to feel normal. A huge number of us are hiding such issues behind a façade of normality created by ego.

From a shamanic perspective, once a split occurs within a person, then that person will effectively adopt an altered personality – aspects of the primary personality will be lost and a second personality will be created. Thus the primary personality will become diminished and a hiiden secondary personality will be formed. It is sometimes possible to see elements of this secondary personality when a person comes under the influence of drugs such as alcohol though in reality there will often be multiple personalities hidden behind the façade of the primary, this is dependent on factors such as the timings of the soul splits and also the extent of trauma the individual has experienced.

On way of looking at it is that the soul splits in order to save the primary personality from pain and this can be the reason why sometimes during painful situations we feel disconnected from that pain and instead feel numbness.

Often this secondary personality will undergo an inversion of the originating personality and will therefore have the impact of creating negative thoughts and feelings that tend to be triggered based upon the cause of the original split. It is like the aspect of our personality says to the primary personality “You rejected me, so I’m going to reject you” and it works to see that the primary personality has a significant negative burden.
It should be noted that usually there are many more than just a single soul split and that the impact of these numerous splits will be varied depending on the harshness of the trauma that created the splits and the resilience of the individual in being able to deal with them. Usually the individual that is most comfortable with self will be most resilient to trauma and therefore soul splits will be minimised. However it is fair to say that this process of having soul splits during childhood that come back to haunt the adult in later years is very common and should be considered to be a very common pat for most people.

As an example, a child who denies and suppresses aspects of their free self (suppresses expression of freewill) due to adults finding such behaviour inappropriate and therefore chastising the child, may well find themselves in adulthood with pronounced needs to suppress expression of freewill in themselves and others. The root cause of this would be in shamanic terms a hidden personality aspect that triggers negative thoughts when the individual is confronted by the need to freely express self. Such an individual can easily become regimented in their own thought processes and suppressive of others where they are placed in positions of power over others. Needless to say, this is a common human “condition” and is a direct result of what many people think of as “Good discipline”.

It should also be noted that people who have soul splits such as the above, will tend to cause others to have soul splits and therefore this behaviour has a tendency to be passed down from parent to child indefinitely until the chain is broken and the individuals concerned no longer suppress those aspects of self.

Soul Retrieval

The healing of soul splits is called a soul retrieval and it is the work often carried out by shaman who help the individual locate such splits and re-attach them to the primary soul via a process of understanding and acceptance.

Once an individual realises that they have psychological problems that stop them from loving all of self, they can begin to work on the process of a soul retrieval.

The task of healing a soul split has the following aspects:

1. Remembering the personality/discovering the drama that represents the soul split
2. Working through the personal drama in order to reach a conclusion whereby the split aspect is willing to again work with self for the benefit of self
3. Reintegrating the soul split into the soul

The secret to soul splits is that the healing process often requires for the memory of the trauma to be replayed and often this need to replay the trauma can reveal itself in negative desires and needs whereby the individual finds themselves drawn to relive these dark episodes from their past. This is part of the automated healing process yet this is often misunderstood as an illness rather than a healing process.

Sometimes however it is only necessary to recall the feelings involved in the split, and this may mean that a false drama, one which does not reveal the truth behind the original split but which involves the same emotional impacts and feelings can be used as the drama.
Often people are scared of these memories resurfacing but it has to be understood that they will return over and over again until the split is repaired and the issues are understood and resolved.

The key thing to realise is that soul splits are caused by a misunderstanding on the part of the individual concerned whereby they blame themselves for an issue another has with them and they seek to change or remove that aspect of their behaviour which caused the other offence. The reality is that this other person was no doubt having issues of their own and in seeking to externalise their own problems by blaming someone else they were passing on their issues, not healing them and the error on the part of the other individual was in not realising that this was happening and taking on board that blame into an self-destructive act of denial of self and seeking to change.

So any person with a soul split will naturally be drawn to express certain feelings, experiences or desires, this will make them feel uncomfortable and they will try to avoid this expression yet it is key that somehow, and safely, these expressions are revealed. It is a case of often reliving that dark moment in an authentic way and to do this once mean that you need never do it again. Fail to take this task seriously and one finds oneself in a loop of partial expressions – numerous failed attempts at resolution which are often interpreted as serious mental illness.

Possibly the best way to reconnect with these lost aspects of self is to enter into a meditative state and ask those lost aspects of self to come forward. Often, there is a primary aspect who will come forward first and once their issues have been resolved they will introduce you to other rejected aspects of self.

Within the meditation, intuition is of critical importance. The reality is that each of knows exactly how to heal ourselves but the problem is that we have been taught not to trust our intuition or ourselves and to seek to rely on “professionals” however, who knows the most about self? The answer is you do and no-one else.

So, in meditation you look to your intuition to reveal to you the path to your own healing. You ask for the aspect of self that wishes to be healed to come forward and to mouth the words that this aspects presents to you. With these words the lost aspect of self will re-introduce itself to you and may seek for you to play out a drama of remembrance whereby it seeks to re-acquaint you with itself.

Do not be surprised is these soul splits are particularly negative at first, many may come forward who want you dead and they may urge you to kill yourself so they can be free of you, however this is part of the reconnection drama. It is important to show these elements your remorse at having rejected them and to remind them that prior to the rejection they were part of the primary soul that took the decision to reject them. Many people will not remember the rejection but it is important to take on board what this lost aspect of self has to say and to remember that it has been locked in a prison in your head for many years and during that time has had no form of expression.

Often the healing process is almost completed purely by the realisation that this lost aspect of self can now express itself. It may feel like a different part of the personality but that will change over time as it slowly reintegrates back into self.

However, particularly traumatic splits will require more work, often this takes to form of a re-enactment of the original circumstances whereby the split occurred. If the exact circumstances cannot be reconstructed then sometime an alternate drama will surface that allows the same emotional content to be replayed. It may be necessary for you to seek help with this part of the process for whilst it is possible for many soul retrievals to me carried out only be the individual concerned often there is a need for a witness and sometimes there is a need for an external control to ensure the drama stays on track. This is where a shaman with experience can be invaluable.

So with a soul split, there is a drama of remembrance and there may also be a drama of acceptance, whereby the split becomes willing to reconnect with the whole through its realisation that it can have expression through the whole and at the end the split may signify it’s acceptance of the reunification by going through a symbolic death and it allows it’s individuality to again become a part of the one that is you.

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Oct 26

Let Fear be Your Ally

Fear has a great deal to teach you. Fear is the experience of being disconnected from who you truly are; It is the opposite of Love. Fear can be a ally if you allow it to be; and just say, I am afraid. In continually doing this you began to to see you are not fear it’s self, but that fear rather is a feeling.” I am afraid” becomes I feel fear.. It is the reaction of holding feelings because you believe they are coming to fast. These feelings are based on a great many assumptions of what might happen. Most fear is not of what is happening NOW but what might be. If you are able to stay in the moment, fear will not find you. Fear is the projection of something that has happened in the past into the future. Through a large magnifying glass, So when you are in fear , you are not in reality. But rather than deny what you feel, just say what you feel in the moment, This act alone will bring you into the moment, and whereby out of Fear.

The Guide HEYOAN

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Oct 25

Knowing and Loving Self


The primary goal of a Selfist is to know and love all of self. This is not as easy a task as it might first seem, since there are many aspects of self that are hidden and also the untrained ego will be tempted to persuade the novice that the self is already loved.

The first step to loving self, is knowing self and this reveals the first question: How does one get to know the unknown aspects of self that have become hidden?

The first thing to realise is that nothing is ever truly hidden; there are clues spread throughout our psyche that to the mindful person become signposts to self-knowledge. Let’s take a look at some of those clues.

Behavioural Issues

Often once a person has started down the path of mindfulness they become aware of behavioural peculiarities of self that seem to come from nowhere. The unmindful person will end up accepting these aspects as “just me” and pay no further notice, they will accept these as simply part of their unique personality build. However the mindful person will find themselves intrigued by these seeming personality quirks, they will know that they did not ask for these things and they will want to investigate further.

Often, these idiosyncrasies, such as angers, fears or anxieties are caused by suppressed aspects of self. For example, if at some point in our past we chose to reject an aspect of self, which we later forgot about, then we might well find ourselves becoming irrationally upset by other people exhibiting these behaviours. So to a mindful person these triggers are very interesting pointers to self-knowledge.

I tend to understand the mechanism for these behaviours coming about in the following way: At some point in our past we suffered trauma due to our expression of some aspect of self, for example, we may have been told off for having freedom of thought and this may have upset us so much, that ego chose to hide this aspect of self from us and ego is so good at doing this, especially during childhood that we forget we ever behaved like that or in the least it becomes a very distant memory.

However, covering over these bits of self means that aspects of our true self become repressed and this creates reactive behavioural traits that tend to become stronger over time. Thus people who have “issues” tend to see these become more and more dominant as they get older.
What this means is that the need to heal these issues is becoming stronger, and those issues will become so pronounced that even the unmindful person can no longer write them off as simply being “me” and they will recognise that somehow they need to be dealt with.

It is also worth noting that so long as we continue to suppress the rendition of true self, opportunities for us to express that truth will keep cropping up. These are often misinterpreted – People see these things repeating on themselves and will choose to blame the outside world for being so bad, rather than understanding that it is their own failure to express their authentic self that means the universe will keep providing opportunities for that perfect rendition until that truth statement is obtained.

For example, a person who is continually getting angry will repeatedly be provided with opportunities to get angry until they eventually find a way to express their feelings about that situation authentically. At which point these opportunities will fade and they will find themselves more at peace with self and the outside world as they become more and more comfortable with expressing their truth.

The important thing to realise is that there is a process taking place, one that is drawing the individual towards their own rendition of truth. It is up to each person to recognise these recurring patterns and to realise that this is a message from self – true self demands its expression and it will work with the universe to provide you with the necessary triggers until you get the message.

For a great many people, the anger comes from an inability to express ones true feelings, and these lessons from self, if followed properly will allow the individual to intuitively find the voicing of self that means the anger becomes redundant.

So, a mindful person will watch out for repeating patterns in their life, they are usually easy to see because they are uncomfortable – drama’s that the individual will try to avoid. Instead of avoiding them, the task is to recognise their presence and to analyse the message that they contain – which aspect of self is in need of expression? The further task is to tune into this aspect and feel how that expression should occur and finally to deliver that expression when the opportunity next arrives.

This may take some practice, often it takes bravery on the part of the individual concerned because the feelings that caused them to reject that truth in the first place will resurface, so a great deal of control and connectedness with self are required, but trust that the universe will provide you with the right moment and listen to your intuition and you will get there.

Self Love

So how does this lead to self-love, if there are all these negative aspects of self needing expressing?

The key to developing any truly loving relationship with self is knowing and understanding the thing to be loved and so this self-introspection process is the first step towards loving those aspects.

What most people find is that these aspects are only negative so long as they remain repressed, once the individual starts to open up to an authentic expression of them, they usually invert themselves, transmuting the negative into the positive in a logical manner, depending upon what they are and how they became suppressed.

It is the repression of true self that leads to the inversion of previously positive self aspects, leading to negative intrusive thought forms, behaviours and attachments. Expressing the authentic self that had been suppressed leads to the re-inversion, which adds to the wealth of loved aspects of self that an individual is aware of.

Thus by inward investigation and by allowing the expression of what is found the individual will begin to obtain a clearer knowledge of a self with many more positive aspects than were first understood, which leads to a greater love of self.

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Oct 24

How to build a happier self! – Some useful methods to manage psycho-physiological states.




Energy, Emotions and the Past

It is of deep importance at this time in human evolution for those committed to self growth to work on releasing and transmuting their own stagnated energies held within the body’s energetic system, created when we experience personal traumatic events.

Unresolved personal traumas cause blockages, imbalance and leakages in our energetic systems and affect our individual interpretation of experiences in the present moment.  The influence of the past upon our thoughts and behaviours (either conscious or unconscious) in the now, shapes our daily experiences, actions and reactions, and thus can keep us stuck in cycles of negative behaviours creating negative experiences creating negative self beliefs.

 Energetic “dis-ease”and negative self beliefs can also manifest as physical or psychological illnesses and disorders; which while they may be treated with modern medicine will rarely be healed completely, until the underlying negative beliefs or traumas creating emotional states of sustain feelings such as anger, shame, guilt or hate have been healed and released.  Like sand bags released from a hot air balloon, releasing these blocking emotional states will allow us to rise up the vibrational frequencies.  


Negative and Positive Emotions – What does this mean?

We describe emotions in terms of negative and positive, but rather than therefore view them as “bad or good” it is more useful to view them simply as defining states of being.  

Positive simply meaning ease of flow, lightness, forwards motion, progressive.  Positive is allowing, letting go, embracing, liberating.  It is balance and harmony with our centre or core sense of self. We feel positive when our beliefs thoughts and feelings are in agreement with our behaviours and experiences, so we feel in balance. 

Negative is imbalance and disharmony, stasis, heaviness, resistance and regressive.  We feel negative when our beliefs are in a state of incongruence or disagreement with our experiences.  We move further away from our centre in negative states, and this distance between who we truly are and who we think we are causes emotional pain. Negative emotional baggage will slow us down; keep us in a state of depression; stuck in situations we don’t wish to be in; create obstacles, illness and difficult experiences. 

Healing occurs when we reach a new level of understanding and awareness of ourselves allowing the issue causing the negative response to come into better alignment with our selves, and thus we transmute the energy into positive allowing us to learn, grown, and feel more of the joy that emotional alignment brings, discovering a new perspective on an old issue.

 The nature of vibrational attraction will draw experiences for us that seek to reveal the lessons needed learning for us to progress.  The more we miss the messages, repeat mistakes,  the more intense the manifestation will be, until we die and return to it next life, or, preferably, when we eventually learn the lesson, thus free the blocked energy and  propel forwards in our lives by the released positive force and higher level of frequency alignment, wisdom and ability.



All we have experienced in the past defines how we experience our now.  

We can choose either to use the past to empower us, or allow it to hinder us.  

Either way our relationship to our past always shapes our now.

 As emotional vibrational beings we are always interpreting the world around us through our emotional response to it in a constant cycle of action and reaction.  We can never change past experiences, but we can change how we feel about them and in turn change how we react to similar happenings in the now.

In this article I intend to share useful techniques for improving levels of happiness and well being through better understanding the inner processes taking place within.  Thus through gentle self observation we can acquire greater control of our own psycho-physiological states.   Unifying mind, heart, body and soul will lift the self to greater levels of awareness, understanding and connection to all that is

We are ever evolving beings and the degree of accessible wisdom to self is directly related the level of harmony or dis-harmony within us.  Increasing inner harmony increases our vibrational frequency, and enables the conscious mind to access and understand, in increasing depth, higher levels of knowledge.

The balance between the layers of various bodies and energy centres that makes up the whole self determines our level of frequency alignment and thus increasing inner harmony provides greater and greater access to, and, understanding of the eternal wisdom contained within us all as, Immortal Spiritual Beings (ISBe’s).

I often find that revisited teachings previously found too difficult to grasp, after a period of self growth and spiritual development, will become clear, often with a level of clarity that was absent previously.  Many spiritual writings contain multiple levels of spiritual truths, and so often we will discover deeper and deeper levels of understanding when studying the same writings over time, as we improve our level of vibrational attunement. 



Science of meditation and thought selection.

Although we can relate a lot of the following to spiritual practices, the processes have become increasingly understood through advancement in modern sciences.  We can see that the methods contained in so many ancient spiritual teachings can be related to current understanding of human psycho-physiological processes.

FACT -We are emotional beings. We read the world around us by reacting to the emotional response we have to our thoughts, either consciously or unconsciously.  Our natural state in no-thought is contentment, neither acting nor re-acting, but simply observing and being.  Our thoughts evoke our emotions.  Thoughts and only thought can evoke negative emotions.  There is no natural state of anger or fear. So without thoughts, negative emotions cannot be sustained.  Meditation techniques used to clear the mind by learning to focus singularly on one external sensation such as the breath; separate “I”  from the constant mental chatter of the mind, rather than identifying, being immersed in and affected by every thought, we realise they are just words, and so can drastically reduce negative emotional states by reducing or increasing our reaction to the words that flow through our minds.

Thoughts are like a train of statements, descriptions and commentary running through the mind.  Its a constant stream of chatter, and habitually our awareness will be fixed on the chattering train so being aware of nothing but the train as it rattles noisily through the mind.  

Through the practice of meditation we are able to disengage our attention from the train and begin to notice that it is a train (objectivity) and then as we stop being fixated on each “carriage” of thought we begin to notice the gaps between the carriages, revealing an enormous space that isn’t filled with the noisy thoughts constantly rattling through our minds.  The whole mind is actually still, expansive, peaceful and open.  Its the huge space of our creative minds, and as we notice this we realise that in order to OBSERVE the train, the carriages, and the scenery beyond we have to have an observer.

It is then we realise that we ARE NOT our thoughts, but simply they are a phenomena of the mind’s constant need to explain, categorise and analyse every experience we have, but it is completely possible to detach from these thoughts and simply observe them without needing to react or be affected by them.   

So instead of just being aware of the noisy train of thought and nothing else..image09

…. we are able to see the beautiful scenery around the train, and realise the “train of thought” is simply a small, very transient part of the whole, much greater, and expansive sense of self which is still and peaceful, and soon the chattering noise retreats into the background.





Thought selection, rejection and reframing


To obsess or not to obsess?

Whatever we give most attention to we create more of.  By rejecting we create that which we reject in order to reject it. It will never leave us as long as we give power to it, and thus create it.  Only by giving concious attention more towards that which we love and desire can we allow that which we dont want to fade into non-existence by our non-attention to it.

I may have a random thought that I want to snog a person I hardly know in a very , or, trip up a cheeky teenager in the street,  or, strip off my clothes and jump in a pond in a busy park; or wonder what it would be like to pick up that knife and stab someone but none of these define me.  Thinking these thoughts does not mean that I WILL do them.  So here I have a choice, and its not about what I do, but what I think about what Im thinking.

 I can obsess and worry that Im having these bizarre spontaneous urges,  that if acted upon would cause issues for me. added anxiety upon this solo thought adds a few “carriages” to what may have been a transient flicker of thought that I let go.  So instead it becomes a much longer, sustained “train” that then causes an actual physiological response such as increased heart rate, raising of blood pressure, tensing of the muscles, release of cortisol the stress hormone, the body readies for fight or flight mode, and so on.

 Noticing this physical reaction I further focus on the source thought, and the thought that “Im thinking about something that is making me anxious, and this focus causes my anxiety levels to increase, as I begin to worry about such a bizarre thought, and start to think if Im having this response I must want to do it, and there is something wrong with me, and I obsess, causing the release of more cortisol, the chemical messenger that tells my body I may be danger and so on and so forth.  So this spiral can continue until I can manage to detach from the thought and simply let it go as a nonsensical babbling of the mind.

In reverse

So. I might have this odd thought like, ” I want to snog this person I’ve just met”,  I may worry, but alternatively I may follow it with a thought that says “ Well I must be such a loving person that I want to show this love and kindness. I know its not appropriate to snog him, so I will shake his hand and smile warmly instead.” .  Or I may decide to pay the thought no heed whatsoever, and allow it to rumble off into the distance never to be thought of again.   

The next thought that comes along might be “Its a nice breeze blowing as I walk”.  I like this thought and the feeling it evokes so I do focus in on it.  Expanding it with more thoughts like,  “ The cool breeze actually makes me feel so calm and relaxed, It’s a lovely moment I’m having”.  As I think more of these thoughts my brain releases dopamine and increases my feelings of calmness and content, and so give rise to more positive thoughts which amplify my positive mood.

Select and reject

So the more we become able to step back from our thoughts, and detach and select, and reframe and focus on the one we like, we can begin to select the thoughts that most align with the interpretation of our experience of reality we wish to have.  This is not about denial or being delusional.  Being more present and aware in the momenet means we are actually more effective in dealing with difficult situations as they arise because we have less obsessional thoughts about things that may not be real, or thoughts that are just transient, occupying our time and mental energy.  

Worrying is a complete waste of time and effort, that only brings us pain, anxiety and upset about things that we imagine MAY happen in a future we concoct in our minds,  but in actual fact may never happen at all.  In fact it may be hard to believe, but due to the highly selective programming of our minds causing a filter and focus effect, we can actually increase the chances of our feared future taking place.  Of course this also works in reverse, and if we program our minds to filter and focus on all that conforms to a positive and happy now, increases the chance that this will be the future that we experience.


Step Four


The spiral loop

As a very simple example, I may have trouble finding my keys.  As I’m searching Im saying to myself “ I’m ALWAYS losing my keys!”.  I’m in a hurry, I don’t want to be late, I start to panic, I recall past times that I couldn’t find my keys for ages and I was very late, and I start to think that what if this is one of those times.  I panic more, my physiology starts to shift, heart rate, pressure, stress, cortisol, a spiral loop of increasing anxiety.  Im looking so frantically now that I’m not really LOOKING, I’m telling my mind “ I always lose my keys!”, I’m starting to shout, to revert to a child who can’t get his way, the sheer frustration, where are MY KEYS!


BE Angry and stupid OR calm and sensible.. we physically and mentally cannot do both!

MindHigh levels of anger reaching into fury actually triggers the body’s fight or flight response.  This means all the blood rushes to the vital organs, we get a shot of adrenalin to enable a very fast exit or attack, and in order to cut out the analytic aspects of decision making, which when under attack or in danger could make the difference between life or death, the higher functioning thought process of the cerebral cortex actually shuts down.  This means quite simply the more ANGRY we are, the more STUPID we become, and the less able we are to reason, debate, or make well informed decisions.

So, looking for my keys,  if I instead stop, breathe, pause, breathe calmly, and think clearly, and with feeling, “I can find my keys easily”.. I tell my mind “I can”.  Important here is allowing that feeling of relief and pleasure I know I am just about to kind my keys.

I know that I was the one who put them where they are right now, of course.  I was the one who did it, so somewhere in my mind is the knowledge where my keys are.  As I pause, and breathe, and calm down, my hand automatically goes to my trouser pocket. and slides inside, and there are my keys.   Truth is as long as no-one else moved the keys somewhere in my mind is the knowledge of where my keys are.  As soon as i let go of panic and allow my body to look for them I WILL find them.

This is the same with ANYTHING we start to tell ourselves.  We may screw up in an interview, in a test, in a first date. Immediately we are reverting to the last time this happened and how badly it went, or immediately the other person is our Dad or Mum, or an old teacher, a partner, who always told us how useless we are; its the trigger for the shame, the anger, the hurt, that all comes back. We project onto the situation, we regress to the child layer who felt this first, we react as that memory layer, we think “What’s the point in denying it?!  They were right, I think just the same!  Im useless, its worthless and nothing will change.  Its who I am. Thats me. Ive always been like that”  How often have you said those words in justifying a behaviour or trait?  We identify it, they absorb and reflect it, so feedback to oneself affirms it, and so on, repeating the cycle of affirmation, creating the picture of reality in our minds that we project onto the world.  

The truth is its not the same experience, they are not the same people, unless they are.  Im sure most adults can affirm to having regressed to a child state when visiting and interacting with the people we grew up with. After all thats with whom we had most of our formative experiences.

However you are not the same person now, with so many more layers of experience stacked beyond that child you were, you have become something more.  Nothing is the same.  Every single moment is new and our past is just a story we tell ourselves, and each persons version of the story is different; all our beliefs are just thoughts we keep thinking. There is nothing real except now, in your mind, through your spirit and yuour soul, and nothing is fixed, every experience is fluid and transient moving to the next.  If we can just catch hold of that flow, and nudge it in the direction we would like to head, we can shape our experience of reality to whatever we desire.  We have the power to change and be whoever we want at any moment.  “Every day is a chance to turn it round!”.


The fragmented self

So it sounds easy doesn’t it?  I just stop relating each experience in the now with the past and how I reacted then, and treat each moment as new.  Easy in theory but so then what’s stopping you?  

Our minds/full conciousness are so incredibly complex and vast that like the lines in a tree, for each year, life stage, and event / trauma / significant experience that we have, a new layer, or self, is formed in the personality conciousness.  So we have a baby self, a toddler self, a preteen self, and a teen self, our first kiss self, a scared self who got mugged, a best birthday self, and so on.  In fact we may have many more separate selves occupying the vastness that is our unconsciousness than years we have lived.  In a healthy well balanced person who has experienced few major trauma’s in their life. A person like this is very, very rare.  As a since departed good friend and teacher once told me “We are all damaged goods, its how we grow from each experience that matters) all their selves will be integrated and fully healthy as part of the whole, but will still pull us one way or the other at times, and one day a positive happy self will be dominant, but the next one who isnt so happy may take over.

However most of us are not so lucky, and over our lives we splinter and separate from smaller parts of ourselves who due to that particular experience will hide away in the subconscious, away from our conscious memory, feeling alone and scared, and living always in that moment that caused them to run, retreat and decide real life is too scary, or simply get stuck in the dream conciousness until we find them as adult self and bring them back home.

Not only does this mean that the adult self is incomplete, and often missing parts of the self that are so important, like the childlike sense of fun, or the toddler’s curiosity, or the baby’s ability to really cry, laugh and scream in quick succession and move on without holding on to any of it.  It also means that even though we don’t consciously recall why we always have a fear or a phobia of things related to the event or experience that caused the younger self to hide away, we are still affected by it and thus we may have an inexplicable fear of any loud noises we cant control, due to the roar of the flames when we were caught the bin of fire when playing with matches as a young child.

Just because we may recall the actual event as well does not mean we recall the details, or the trauma we felt at the time.   Additional trauma is also often caused by the adults reaction to our innocent mistakes, as children feel adults emotions very powerfully, and if an adult is visibly scared or shaken then the child will likely be terrified.

As an adult we may look back and think “Oh that was nothing” but as a small child it may have been a terrifying experience that actually made us feel scared for our lives!


Thoughts and Mood Hormones

FACT – Thoughts invoke emotional states which produce chemical messengers (hormones) which travel round the body and attach to cells using receptors which informs the rest of the body what emotional state we are in. So although thoughts begin in the mind, emotions are not confined there, nor are they sustained there. Most of our organs have a physiological state that changes depending on mood, thus we feel physically depressed or physical sadness, as well as happy, loving, joyful which enables the cycle of feeling better or worse by noticing the psychological reaction to it in our body.  the heart actually has almost as many neuronal receptors as the brain so we do actually FEEL and THINK with our hearts).  

Overtime cells become adapted so the receptors can only attach to the most dominant hormone produced.  So if we maintain a state of depression after a time the cells will only lock onto the chemical hormones which maintain depressive states.  Hence why when we ARE depressed for a prolonged period  it can seem so hard to lift out of it as the chemistry of the body become more predisposed to depression.


The good news is that this also works in reverse, so if we can maintain generally positive emotional states for long enough the receptors will adapt to only be able to lock onto chemical hormones that make us happy.  This means that once you have maintained a healthy positive mood for a majority of the time it becomes harder and harder to go back into a depressive state unless you maintain, focus on and repeat the depression triggering thoughts over an extended period of time.

Positive visualisation or negative?  We are always doing one or the other.

We are always visualising possible futures for ourselves so its much more desirable to do this with intention and purpose based on our hopes, rather than allow the mind to invent visions based on our deepest fears.

The chemical response in our bodies to positive or negative emotions adds some new understanding on why using positive visualisation can be so effective.  If we can intentionally create visions  in our minds that we immerse into and use to actually evoke positive emotional responses then after time the body’s chemistry becomes more positively charged as it reacts to the positive thoughts we are having more often, and so we improve or worsen our resting emotional state by what we think of most.  

For example: By spending a short time relaxing and building a clear vision focusing on happy memories we can use them to bring that emotional state into the now.  Using the feeling we had after a successful performance or; when we found out we got the job, passed our exams; when we get off the plane arriving at our holiday destination, can help us to create an emotional trigger which we can then transfer to a vision we have of a desired future.  Use this emotional memory to help in creating more of these feelings we want to have in response to optimistic visions of a hoped for future; such as getting that perfect job, promotion; finding the perfect new home.

Feeling feelings about feelings

We can load feelings negatively by worrying about the worry that we worry about, and create more worry, as the worry increases. The body reacts by tensing, heart, frown etc, and we notice and worry some more, the fists clenched, increasingly tense,  and we increase the worrying feeling again and so on. 

However, we can also feel a little good about something, and feel good that we notice we are feeling a little better, and then noticing this makes us feel a little better about feeling better, as we notice we can feel better we feel a little better still, and then we feel a relaxing in the body and feel relief as we start to feel good, and we notice we felt good for  second there, and then its 2 seconds, and we relax more and smile, we notice the smile and the smile makes us feel better, and so on, and on.

Its all about creating the emotional state these visions make us FEEL and really FEELING it as if its happening right now.  By purposefully immersing ourselves in a positive vision of a future event for a short time we can start to change the direction of emotional flow from negative to positive, but if we allow fear to rule we will, without realising, do the exact opposite and immerse in a vision that increases our fear and anxiety and thus impact upon the physical chemistry of the body and creating more negative physical responses.  

Thoughts are the triggers for emotions.  So when purposely creating a positive vision the key is to really FEEL the emotions the thoughts evoke,  and so in reverse we catch the negative thoughts early, change how we see them internally, reduce the amount we dwell on them, so reducing the emotional and chemical response, reducing the hormones being released by the emotion, and over time changing our biochemical balance to have more happiness orientation.

This is also why the reduction technique (see motivation booklet) is so good as it helps us identify the way that we build up and dominate ourselves with negative visions.  We always use visualisation regardless of whether we do it consciously or by design.  In our minds we create images of situations we are thinking about.  When we think about something negatively we usually do it subconsciously and see the situation as huge, loud, above us, dominating, huge, bold, clashing colours etc, evoking a natural emotional and physiological response causing a flight or flight response releasing cortisol ( stress hormone),  produces fear, anxiety or feelings of isolation, hopelessness.  

So by reversing this process, making vision of situations we are concerned about smaller in our minds, below us, quieter, pale colours or black and white and so on, we can vastly reduce the anxiety we feel about it, until it is gone.  

Intentionally we then create visions of what we DO want to happen in full colour, big, bright, exciting, or whichever applicable positive emotion.  So the reduction technique reverses negative feeback loops, making scary thinsg less and so, and enhancing a desired perspective and positive response to the visualised situation.  This therefore starts to increase dopamine (pleasure and reward hormone) and after a while our cells adapt to only lock onto dopamine instead, and so cortisol may be produced but much less of it actually locks onto cells.

I’m not talking about always being annoyingly happy all the time, to the point of denial, as often those who outwardly display such behaviour are often masking deep insecurity,  but simply allowing a few minutes a day to really intentionally evoke happy emotions, giving more “airtime” to things that make us happy,  which over time brings our baseline up so that our resting state is more and more in the happy/contented zone.



In relationships…

This psychology outlined above is also an important tool in intimate relationships and our view of them and how we describe them to our partner. So the 3 to 1 rule is important to follow to keep the balance on the positive ie highlighting and praising 3 good things for every 1 bad or negative.  Its easy to become negatively oriented so that the majority of behaviours we notice, and point out, become the majority of behaviours the person who is the focus of our feedback displays, and / or that we notice.  If you see it in reverse, if you had someone remind you daily of the things you do wrong then its foremost in your mind, you worry about it,  and thus highly increases the odds that it becomes the majority behaviour you engage in, which the evokes a more powerful criticism from the other person, “ I told you clearly but you still….” and the thought “ Wow he/she was right! I am/do…….” and actually reinforces the cycle. It works in return towards us from them, and also adjusts our focus to notice mostly that which confirms our opinions each other. 

Really focusing, describing, amplifying, and expanding on the positive behaviours, and even going into great detail about DESIRED behaviours has the opposite effect.  If described to the extent it creates an emotional response in you both, then it anchors in in the mind and becomes something that is very likely to become truth, even if it isn’t already.  

So, for example, telling someone daily how much you love the way they are so generous and giving and you love little surprises and gifts they sometimes give you etc will likely mean that after a short while they will need to become this and do will do this… and vice versa.  

Join this “thinking” work, positive self talk and self and partner praising with physiological exercises and positive postures, healthy eating and regular exercise,  then you have a powerful positive force inducing positive spin up the spiral, and in the cyclic nature of things you re-experience life from a positive or neutral perspective.

The potential for an awakened and aware couple to positively spin themselves up the spirals of frequency by positively influencing each other through continuous, caring and consciously selected reciprocal feedback, is incredible.




Hynotherapy tracks

Can be used anywhere like train/plane/chilling in the park etc but best to be Lying down and where you are unlikely to be disturbed. Needs headphones. Dont underestimate the power of these to make subtle but very effective shifts in thinking and emotional well being just by regular listening (eg . once every 2-3 days for 3 weeks).  You dont have to consciously listen to every second of them, but just allow yourself to drift off with the words.

Positivity (30min with no awakener so great for bedtime to use before sleep)

The 3 C’s – Calm Confident and Collected.

Shorter(15min)+ track to reduce negative thinking cycles with awakener.  Great just before interviews or at times of dark thoughts you cant shift.  

Re the “chakra tones” in the track – You may not believe in chakras, but regardless negative thoughts and emotions do cause disharmonic brain frequencies, so simply see the tones in the track as harmonic frequencies that entrains the brains frequency into greater emotional harmony and so soothes depressive thinking.  If you are not giving attention to it you cannot feel it.

The 3 C’s bedtime

Same track with no awakener


TED Life Hacks series on netflix

Excellent series of simple tips and tricks to lift mood and increase well being

Especially recommend Amy Cuddy and Jane Mcgonigal


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Oct 22

Life Processes – Why most People are how they Are


Life Processes – Why most People are how they Are

To anyone who is awakening what very quickly becomes obvious, is that most people who they meet in this world are asleep and ego bound in that they have learnt to exist by creating self through copying others. In this blog I would like to explore my ideas as to how they got there.

My basic premise, is that for the majority of people, they suffer a trauma, very early in life, that is so strong as to cut themselves off from their Inner Light. It is this Inner Light that is their connection to true self, and it is this connection to true self that allows us to freely interact with the world about us. When we lose that connection then the only option is to observe others and interpret their doings into our own personal context.

From that point on they lose their sense of self, perhaps not all of it at first, other trauma will arise in order to present us with a view of the typical child as one who starts off in life being well connected to self, but whose childhood presents them with sufficient trauma to almost completely disconnect them from their sense of self by early adolescence.

I propose that life starts prior to birth, and by the time a person is born there may well have been several events that would have started this process of losing self. I also think that early life trauma can not only be through physical or mental cause, but also on a more hidden spiritual level; that your trauma’s can originate from either sphere and it will also have influence in the other sphere’s – spiritual, mental and physical.

A common theme I think is that a traumatic event, such as a telling off, could result in the rejection of a significant aspect of self, often these trauma’s seem to need only the slightest impulse for it to have a significant impact. And that this rejection of self exorcises a piece of life from ourself, this aspect of self lives on in the subconscious and unconscious mind and has hidden influence. It can often invert itself, from positive to negative, and in so doing has impact on our conscious self.

I suggest that this loss of connection with self creates an individual who increasingly discovers that this lack of information means that they often have to copy others when responding to situations since they have lost their connection to how they themselves would respond.

This creates a situation where the transition of childhood is an ever changing balance between true self and the copied self, with the copied self gaining in dominance as the true self is steadily lost.

What this means is that these people have each set themselves with the challenge of losing self in order that they may “Find what was lost” as part of their life journey. For these aspects of self that were lost often reassert themselves in the form of negative inversions of their spirit, which can have dramatic and increasing impact on the maturing adult, they come out as character flaws and other personal foibles that have negative impact on the individual in question. They seem to have triggers and often these triggers show themselves with increased frequency as the individual gets older.

One of the great issues with most people it would seem, is that they do not realise that these issues coming up are strong reminders that an aspect of self wants to get back in touch, and is determined that you will hear them. We are not taught that this is what life is about; This need to find the true self that was lot. It seems to be a great open secret, one that is exploited by many because it is a secret that every advertising genius has a handle on for example – people need to have suitable others to copy and the media can provide…

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Oct 19

Training the Ego 3 – Working with Ego – A mind without thoughts

3. Working with Ego – A mind without thoughts


Now that I’ve laid out the basic principles of ego management it is probably wise if I look into the practicalities of working through this process, to give you an idea of some of the activities that you can do as practical exercises to help you master your ego quicker.

The first task is to quieten the mind. This is perhaps the hardest task, since it is the first task and the concepts that I have introduced may be unfamiliar to you.

There is also a caveat: Not everyone will be able to quieten the mind by following these steps, some people have ego challenges that run deeper than simply learnt behaviour that can cause intense obsessive thoughts that are seemingly impossible to stop. I will be covering these issues later, so be assured if you find it impossible to quieten the mind at this stage, there are other solutions coming.

One of the bad habits ego picks up is that it can constantly keep you thinking about things. This is often picked up from school where it can be seen as beneficial to have an active mind, however when this habit carries over into adult life it can cause significant problems. For example you can find yourself unable to “switch off”, interrupting sleep, it can also mean you constantly worry about things; projecting negative outcomes into your future is a serious cause of depression and it can actually help manifest these negative outcomes into your life. It also means that you can be easily distracted and unable to concentrate on anything other than the simplest of tasks.

There are a number of techniques you can use to stop these thought patterns, often people defeat worrying thoughts by holding a simple logic to defeat the thought, for example, remembering that any general worry, or even a constant hope can cause problematic outcomes for the future. Because they get in the way of living in the “now”, in short by thinking too much about the future, or of other peoples actions you sacrifice your attention on what is important – the “now”.

So many people faced with anxiety caused by over thinking at first defeat those thoughts by finding solid logical reasons as to why those thoughts should not happen, and they work hard to make sure that every time the mind slips into those thought patterns they stop them with the defeating logic.

Another approach, one that I encourage is distraction, in the case of my example of listening to music intently, this is a distraction from thinking completely and I find it more beneficial because it avoids the trap of thinking too much about not thinking. Which sounds odd, but it happens.

It is worth remembering that the ego develops habits, and it finds habitual thoughts easier then non habitual thought. So what you are trying to do is stop the unwanted habit and develop thought habits that are desirable, it this case the habit of having a quiet mind.

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Oct 16

Training the Ego 2 – Training your Ego

The first thing to understand is that ego is quite complex and therefore there is a lot to learn. This means that although I will tell you here the basics there are more advanced aspects of ego that might lead you to think that the training is not working. Also some aspects of ego are easier to train than others.


A key aspect of training your ego is that you must do it with the understanding that the goal is to create an ego that you love, and that the primary aim is for you to become a loving person. If you try to avoid this intent then the training will come into problems and you will find yourself unable to make progress. This is one of the secrets of ego – it is there to allow us to become all that we may be – which is a truly loving person, and it will fight against training that is nonloving.

The first task with training your ego is to train ego to be silent. This is often called “Quieting the mind”. Like most of what I am talking about this takes practice at first and appears to be almost impossible to do at first. The idea is to stop ego from making suggestions for things to think about.

Quite simply, you ask ego to be silent, this can be very hard at first and therefore what some people do is they initially choose to focus on something that does not require thought, such as listening to music intently, without allowing your mind to drift into other thoughts. This is something most of us can do for a little while but as a beginner you should practice doing it for longer and longer periods until you can do it for 15 minutes or so.

Once you can listen to music for extended periods of time without thinking about anything else other than listening you will find it a lot easier to simply think of nothing without concentrating on anything.

Once you master this process, what I call “no-thought” then you will be able to more easily work on the thoughts that come to mind as you go about your life, the idea is not to fill your mind with “Ego chatter” but to leave room for more subtle operations of the mind, such as intuition.

Ego is actually a quick learner and is always looking for opportunities to improve and help you, but it is critical that you work with ego my being mindful, so what is mindfulness?

Mindfulness is the process of watching your thoughts. A mindful person is aware that thoughts can be incorrect, not true to self and therefore that person watches their thoughts refrains from acting on them until they are right for them.

There is actually more to being mindful than might at first seem, it is a skill that must be learnt. You need to tune into what I call “pre-thought”. Pre-thought is a precursor to the actual thought that is coming into your mind, it is like an intuitive clue that the thought is coming and what it will be and it is in the pre-thought stage that a mindful person finds it is easiest to stop or change the thought that is coming. It takes practice to feel the pre-thought coming, most people are hardly aware that it is there. But if you pay attention you will tune into it relatively easily so long as your mind is not cluttered with other thoughts.

Mindfulness is something that takes time to develop. You should make sure that you practice mindfulness on a daily basis and be aware that the aim is to achieve mindfulness full time, but initially it is exhausting and you need to develop the skill by taking “baby steps” – short periods of mindfulness at first that lead to longer and longer periods of mindfulness.

This leads to the basics of training your ego:

  1. Inspect with your mind the pre-thought
  2. Decide if the thought should be allowed, modified or dropped
  3. Allow only thoughts consistent with your concept of self

Ego will learn from this very quickly, it will stop presenting thoughts that will be dropped and it will increasingly present thought suggestions that are in tune with your instructions.

It should be noted that becoming a mindful individual with an ego that is in tune with self takes time and patience. Do not expect an overnight success but be confident that if you stick with it you will gain mastery over your ego and it will become a friend that you will love.

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